Archive for March, 2013

“otherness” in others that shines.

by Angela on Saturday, March 30th, 2013.

Today I actually have the energy for a blog post. Probably because I went for a bike ride when it was -1  outside, and am WIDE awake as a result!
That aside- I realised that the last time I went bike riding-  Kai was barely walking – meaning it has been a long time since I have ridden. However I distinctively recall having significantly lower energy then,  than this time around.

As I was riding along, aware of how good I felt, I began to realise that this is a small landmark event for me. For those of you who know me well or are close to me you will recall that the past two years have seen me not at my optimum health.

My internal fire was extinguished.  2012 in particular  was a dark time, endless days feeling lost and alone. I will not mention the specifics, however I will be the first to admit that due to external stress levels going on in my life that were beyond my control-  I stopped functioning.  My eating became disordered. I had no appetite  for my life and the knot in the pit of my stomach prevented me from thinking clearly, making decisions that were rational. It prevented me from sleeping, dreaming, from seizing opportunities that were presented to me. The Isolation was crippling.  My mind was fractured.

Some people whispered on corners, some turned away, and some screamed at the top of their voices.

Since returning to a healthier state of being I have thought about sharing a part or the whole of this journey. I thought initially that I did not want to write a blog post about that time. However, I think there is merit in sharing. I usually have no time for blogging, I am not an avid blogger who likes to spread my opinion via the web however- if I can reach out to others, then it seems to make sense to write about something i know will effect others.

I know for a fact that Mental illness is a huge part of human society, especially in the westernised world.If there was less fear and judgement then people would be open to sharing more. This will not be an attempt to rid the world of stigmatisation, however I can share a part of a story that may.

So I will argue that this post  is about recognition, of self, of others and of society.

While it was in large a personal journey, a re-building of a self – I did not do this on my own, I did this with support from certain people- and those people know who they are, and they should be acknowleged. For those who lost faith in me during this time; I can understand it would have been painful to be a powerless witness. While I have a firm idea,  I may not fully know the extent of their pain or what was going through their minds as they struggled with watching me struggle.

Call it ironic but in actual fact-  having people give up on me, only strengthened my resolve to push forward and prove to myself they were wrong, so to them I say an additional thank you.

I  wonder,  about a hypothetical alternative. If I had  been in a traumatic road accident which resulted in a  broken leg which left me just as incapacitated, just as damaged, whether the treatment of me would have been more understanding. I think it would. People could “see the cast” on my leg and understand what was “wrong with me”- when it comes to matters of mental health – a lot of people are just not educated about the facts, and naturally we shy away from what we do not understand, “it is dangerous” – however therin lies the problem with social determinates of health. Stigma.

Essentially what propelled me to get through this dark time was my son Kai. I could not leave my child motherless. I had to get up and face myself. I have realised I can not seperate myself from being a mother now. This death of my previous identity was something I had  to grieve. Something I had to challenge, to deny, to surrender to, to play with, to taste and re taste, to explore, realise and accept.

While having my first baby, at age 23 – away from family  in a foreign  country was totally my choice, I realise now that was a choice marked as one of the hardest things I have ever done.

– But when you answer to someone who is 100 % dependant on you for their survival- the pressure is over-whelming. Your thoughts about yourself must change.

What kind of example did I want to set for my son?

That personal fears  can rule your daily existence?

Or rather that your opinions of yourself are flexible, can mutate and evolve,  and that we have a right to demand our own physical, mental and psychological health is a priority?

That being afraid of life is a balanced approach? or rather; that it is healthy to have fears, but not to let them dominate you?

That sometimes you can try your hardest at something, but it will not always come to fruition, and that is acceptable too.

That we need to love ourselves enough to forgive ourselves for the things beyond our control. Nothing  is so big that we are not deserving to share a part of our-self  with the world, furthermore – that self betterment is always desired. Accepting a second rate shadow of ourselves, is not acceptable.

Each second of every day we make choices with consequences-and each day  we can choose to alter  what is causing us lose respect for ourselves, or what is blocking  inner contentment.

I wanted Kai to learn hat happiness should not be a the ultimate goal, as it is fleeting emotion – which will pass, and it is exhausting to chase an unrealistic ideal; however to reach for a place of self contentment no matter what you are doing or where you are.

I wanted Kai to see mistakes are a natural progression in evolution, that adults and children alike make mistakes and can adapt. That adults do not always have all the answers, all the time, we are human after all.

That there are myriads of ways to deal with the situations presented to us, and we can choose.

The final lesson I hope I can impart is how art can heal.

An art project I began whilst in an hour of darkness helped me to process my fears during this time, to channel it into something that can now potentially serve  other people who are struggling and need something to cling to at their hour of darkness. A tiny seed of hope was implanted in me the day I decided to do this art project, a little flickering spark on the horizon that makes you think- what is up ahead?

When I told a therapist I was doing this- she was taken aback, and then disapproving. Her judgement was intriguing as she scoffed at me and rolled her eyes- I just smiled at her in response. I CAN not wait to prove her wrong.

 

 

 

 

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Saturday, March 30th, 2013 Thoughts No Comments

Apple can’t obey its own specifications

by Oliver on Tuesday, March 19th, 2013.

I’ve been playing around with a basic implementation of HLS the last few days, and despite it being a proprietary streaming transport there is a public specification available for it which seems reasonably complete. That being said, it is still proprietary, hasn’t made it through the standardization process and the public spec is suspected of being at least partially incomplete. THAT being said, I still managed to get both iTunes and an iPad working with it just based on my reading of the specification, so it has enough to get by.

However, as I worked through the small number of bugs I had in my implementation, firstly only iTunes would play back content but not the iPad. Later when I had fixed the bugs, the situation was reversed and only the iPad could play back but not iTunes. One would think that a desktop app would be more lenient with faulty implementations on the server side than a portable device which may not always be kept up to date, but apparently not!

It turns out that iTunes (at least 11.0.2 build 26) doesn’t actually implement Apple’s own specification properly, in that it can’t handle media segment URIs relative to the URI of the m3u8 playlist. This has been in the specification since at least draft 3 of the public specification, released April 2, 2010. Here’s what the playlist should (or could) look like:


#EXTM3U
#EXT-X-VERSION:4
#EXT-X-TARGETDURATION:2
#EXT-X-MEDIA-SEQUENCE:1
#EXTINF:0.992653,
#EXT-X-BYTERANGE:15883@0
test.mp3
#EXTINF:0.992653,
#EXT-X-BYTERANGE:15883@15882
test.mp3
#EXTINF:0.992653,
#EXT-X-BYTERANGE:15884@31764
test.mp3

With no further specification, the HLS client should request the media file at the same path level (and from the same server) as the playlist file. Unfortunately iTunes seems to require the full URI to the media segments:


#EXTINF:0.992653,
#EXT-X-BYTERANGE:15884@31764


It’s not the end of the world, but it is unnecessary, and a requirement that died almost three years ago when the second draft specification expired. The other side-effect of this is that your playlists will now contain more data. If you are attempting to stream very long tracks and with reasonably short media segments, this means you have a much longer startup time due to the size of the playlist being bigger and thus being a larger download for the player before it can start requesting media segments.

The main mechanism by which we could offset this is also seemingly not present in iTunes – gzip content encoding. ITunes makes no attempt to negotiate any compression in the response, which was part of the specification since draft 4, released June 5, 2010. It mystifies me that Apple can stay so far behind in its own streaming transport with its flagship music playback software and yet clearly keep its devices implementing the same streaming mechanism up to date (at least enough to be useful).

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Tuesday, March 19th, 2013 Tech No Comments